The Modern Firm Website Analytics

Contact Us

Fill out my online form

Selecting the Best Divorce Process for You

Already Separated? Do I need a Divorce

I have recently conferred with a number of people who have been separated from their spouse for many years, but remained married to them. They have many and diverse reasons for staying married. However, they are at a point where one spouse wants to end the marriage. These clients have been surprised to learn that […]

Read More

What Do Lawyers Do When They Divorce?

When lawyers divorce, they try to stay out of court. Even though they may have an advantage over their non-lawyer spouse, they try everything to settle the case before the judge is placed in the position of having to make decisions for them and their families. People, like lawyers, who understand the judicial system resist […]

Read More

Is Cheaper Better?

Divorce is a very expensive proposition. We are splitting up one household into two. The costs of running the two households is going to be higher than running one household. Do you want to spend more money on a lawyer; or less? The answer is intuitively, “less.” However, that is not the key question. The […]

Read More

Conscious Uncoupling – New Way to Divorce or Is It?

Actress, Gwyneth Paltrow, recently made news by announcing that she and her husband, Chris Martin, will be divorcing in a humane way called “conscious uncoupling.” This is actually one of the methods by which couples can respectfully develop ways to care for their children and divide their property and debts. This reduces the level of […]

Read More

The Higher the Conflict; the Greater the Attorney Fees

It is common to feel a lot of anger towards your spouse/ex-spouse/partner as the relationship breaks up.  It is hoped that as you can visualize your future without that person as a more positive situation, that the anger will dissipate.  Many lawyers recommend that you talk with your therapist about these feelings. For some people, […]

Read More

Is there a good time to divorce?

In order to avoid having a more difficult, hostile divorce, it is useful to pay attention to timing. For example, filing just before an important event, like your spouse’s birthday, or your wedding anniversary, will inflame the situation.   Similarly, I discourage people from filing just before important holidays, unless they need immediate protection from the […]

Read More

If Tom and Katie Can Divorce is Relative Privacy, So Can You

The stories regarding Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ divorce have died down. In the intervening months, they have demonstrated that their private, reasoned divorce can establish a new family relationship and they can both care for their daughter. They have evidently fashioned a complete and lasting settlement. There are thousands of civilized, comprehensive and private […]

Read More

The Hard Talk – Telling Your Spouse the Marriage is Over

How to do it? Have the courage to sit down and talk with your spouse/partner what you are thinking and why. GIve them the courtesy of a face-to-face talk. Yes, there will likely be tears. Yes, it will be uncomfortable for both of you. Still you owe this to the person with whom you have […]

Read More

Early Stage Mediation Works Better

Anyone filing a domestic case in Washtenaw County has a 75% chance of receiving an order to mediate when the Clerk of the Court returns the summons.  As we know, Judge O’Brien and Judge Wheeler both require mediation unless the parties have reached a settlement or there is domestic violence at a level that makes […]

Read More

How Do Divorce Lawyers Handle Their Own Divorces?

How do divorce lawyers handle their own divorces?  They try to do everything they can to stay away from court. Why?  They know that going to court is a losing proposition.  It wastes money, time, energy and future good-will.  They know that dwelling on the past is like sitting on a merry-go-round.    Fighting will get […]

Read More

Contact Us

Fill out my online form