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Parenting During and After Divorce

Children Who Refuse to Visit – Part II of II

If your child is resisting spending time with you, it may be due to your own lack of insight into why. Perhaps you have a problem with anger management and your child has experienced how your spouse feels after a blow-up or worse, has seen the blow-up. Maybe you have been largely missing from the […]

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Children Who Refuse to Visit – Part I of II

Your divorce is finally over, a parenting time schedule is in place, and now you are looking forward to building your relationship with your child in an environment that does not include your former spouse. Parenting time is going along fine: your ex spouse is abiding by the parenting time schedule and your child is […]

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Do Your Kids Resist Spending Parenting Time with You? Give Them Permission to Love the Other Parent

Recently, a new client complained that her 15 year old son does not want to spend time with his father. The son complains that Dad maligns Mom when they are together. Yesterday, the client forwarded an email exchange between their son and his dad which son had forwarded to her. In the email, Dad described […]

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Being Successful Co-Parents After Divorce

There is no one magic formula for successful co-parenting after divorce. There are guidelines that help parents. 1. Show respect for the other parent. You once loved this person enough to make at least once child together. No, the other parent is not perfect. Neither are you. Together you probably compliment each other as parents. […]

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Are You Good Candidates for Parallel Parenting?

There are three style of parenting after divorce. 1) Cooperative, 2) Conflicted or 3) Disengaged and Parallel parenting. Cooperative parenting is the style used by parents who have low conflict and who can communicate effectively about their child. You agree on most parenting values, have relatively consistent parenting styles and have few arguments about your […]

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Tips for Parenting With a Jerk

Let’s assume you have tried the suggestions contained in the earlier article about co-parenting with a jerk. Despite your best efforts, the jerk has not responded effectively. Here are some techniques that will benefit your children: Don’t criticize the other parent. If you say negative things about your ex-spouse, the children will respond with having to […]

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Parenting With a Jerk

Courts in Michigan prefer awarding joint legal custody of minor children. In fact, the statute requires the court to make a finding of why joint legal custody should not be granted, if either parent requests it. This is based on the research that shows that most children do better if they have two involved parents […]

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When Your Spouse Becomes an Impaired Parent

In most cases, parents can co-parent effectively. If one parent is chemically dependent or suffers from a mental illness, much more work will fall to the the healthy parent. If the impaired parent does not address the problem, the children may be placed at risk and you may be placing yourself in danger. The law […]

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Judge: “I don’t love your children.”

Judges give the following admonition to people who litigate, in different forms.  One particularly forthright judge stated it this way. “I don’t love your children.  I have only met them once for a very short time.  You know them and their needs better than I will ever know them.  For the life of me, I […]

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Moving with the Children to Other States

In our mobile society, we often encounter clients who have moved to Michigan from other states.  When their marriage is threatened, they prefer to have the support of their extended families and want to move back home.  When the couple has children, this poses special concerns. Barring one parent being negligent or abusive, children need […]

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