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Caring for Yourself During and After Divorce

Fantasy Versus Reality

I recently tried a case where both parents wanted to portray their family as the “All American Family.” In other words, they are both prominent members of the community. They wanted everyone in their community to believe that as a couple, they loved and respected each other and that their wonderful children were the products […]

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Being the Victim in the Divorce

             When your spouse or significant other is the one who initiates the divorce or separation and you want to stay married, a great many emotions will wash over you.  Among them is fear, anger, and helplessness.  You may also feel humiliation, guilt and shame at being left.  A common reaction is to seek support […]

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It’s a Scary Time

It’s almost Halloween; a time when children and adults face their fears.  For those going through divorce, it can feel like Halloween all year long.  It’s a time to be scared.  The difference is we don’t have the benefit of great costumes to place a smile on our face and temper our fears as part […]

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FINANCIAL CONSIDERATIONS IF YOU DIVORCE

Lately, a number of potential clients have come in to explore getting a divorce.  Some were employed outside the home; some not.  Some had high income wage-earning spouses.  Some had well-paying job themselves.  The common thread was that they had not considered what life-style changes getting a divorce entails. They had other factors in common. […]

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Just Take Care of My Divorce and Call me When it’s Over

Occasionally, there are very busy people who are used to focusing on what they do best (often having to do with work) and delegating or paying others to do the work they do not wish to do themselves.  This includes taking care of family matters. Not surprisingly, particularly when they have problems that are very […]

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Do Professionals Have to Make Divorce so Complicated?

Some clients complain that professionals, such as lawyers, make divorce unnecessarily complicated.  The client is really saying there are so many facets to this divorce that I feel overwhelmed.  I want to keep this simple. The truth is, as many of these blog articles show, divorce is complicated.  There is no escaping this.  Avoiding professional […]

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Getting Past Anger

Most divorces start when one spouse decides that the marriage is no longer meeting his or her needs.  The initiating spouse has often spent months, perhaps years pulling away from the relationship and considering his or her options.  Often the remaining partner, the one who finds the marriage does meet his or her needs, is  […]

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New Social Security Deadlines

Last November, Congress changed two Social Security claiming strategies that affect married and divorced couples.  These take effect after April 29, 2016.   There is still time to take advantage of the strategies, if you act quickly. Divorced couples.  If you were married for 10 years or more before your divorce, and you have not remarried, […]

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Creating New Traditions

There are a number of lesser holidays and some major ones in the late winter and spring; St. Patrick’s Day, April Fools Day, Easter, Memorial Day. Seems we are always ready to celebrate something. For days that have family significance for you, trying to figure out how to make them special either during or following […]

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Forgiveness in Divorce

Is it necessary to forgive as part of the divorce? When this question is posed, most often, the client thinks that we are talking about forgiving the other spouse. What we are talking about is really a two part process. Forgiving Yourself. Many clients come to our firm feeling embarrassed about their situation. Generally, the […]

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